Communication & Relationship

The quality of your relationships is directly related to what you think. Thinking is how your mind interprets what happens around you.

The information you receive is determined by how you interpret incidents. The quality of your information is dependent on the struggle between your ego and your wisdom. Whoever has the dominant position influences your thinking towards one of the poles.

Relationships are about communication. You are conveying a message to someone or you are interpreting their message.

You think in concepts and pictures. The pictures that you formulate are then turned into words. This is where you encounter difficulties.

“A picture tells a thousand words.”

Why Communication breaks down?

Your words don’t describe your picture because you focus on your own emotional needs. Emotion is what drags an interpretation towards one of the poles. When you communicate, this prevents you from focusing on your delivery and the feedback you receive from the other person that is essential to effective communication.

There are only two types of relationships. The relationship you have with yourself and the relationship you have with the outside world.

1. The relationship you have with yourself is based upon how you interpret what happens around you at any given time.

This means that every event is interpreted by you, based on the state of your mind in the past when you interpreted the last event. You are heavily influenced by your past and all of your thinking is biased towards one of the poles.

To improve the relationship with yourself you need to communicate your concepts to your ego in a positive way. You need to train your mind to do this.

Use positive affirmations to redraw your pictures. It’s that simple but it requires constant effort.

2. The relationship you have with the outside world is identical. What happens to you is based on how you interpret the event, not what the event is.

The difference is what you focus on and how you interpret the event. Beware that each event is a new opportunity and you can interpret and respond as you wish. Your relationships with the outside world are just a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself.

If you are angry, you will find that your are surrounded by other angry people. What happens if you are happy? Yes, you will find yourself surrounded by other happy people.

What you can do is simply is simply look around and determine the quality of your existing relationships. This is the indicator of what is happening internally with you.

This will improve all your relationships dramatically. You have the ability and the opportunity to recreate you and your relationship to yourself every moment of everyday.